Saturday, August 8, 2009

Motorized Menace.

Our aged condo neighbor across the hall is a wonderful guy, with a interesting character. He's a great neighbor with only one problem, he is now a motorized menace. We forgave him when he left the tap running all night into the kitchen sink, which resulted in our condo, and all the storage lockers below him, being flooded with water. We even forgave him, the second time he did it. He left a candle burning down all night, in a plastic candle holder. The black acrid smoke filling his apartment, and the hallways. After much banging on the door he finally woke up enough to open the door, stark naked. I am still traumatized. And I don't which one of us gave the highest pitched girlie scream at the sight of him standing there naked, black smoke swirling around his skinny legs, his hands belatedly hiding the embarrassing parts. He laughed that one off, saying I did not need to call the fire department, but he so easily could have died of smoke inhalation. Now he has a motorized scooter, the kind that the sidewalks, streets, and malls are teeming with. Those dangerous whirling tornadoes that whiz by pedestrians on the sidewalks. He only knows one speed, MAXIMUM. We were surprised to hear a loud repeated banging on our adjoining hallway wall the other day, it was him. He was stuck in the hallway and revving back and forth hitting alternatively the wall, and his doorway. Leaving large holes in the wall, and black marks on the doors, the scooter speed was a high as it could go. Unfortunately this was not the end of the motorized menace. A few days ago, there was a large crash, and the sound of glass breaking. He rammed the glass front doors, and broke one. He approached the front doors with the scooter set on it's highest speed. We spent the night with only a flimsy plywood door for protection. We love him, but it is really obvious that he is no longer capable of driving any motorized vehicle, and he does not understand how this scooter works. We are very concerned that he will topple the scooter over a sidewalk, or dart in front of a car. It comes with lots of safety features, but none of those replace capability. While we don't wish to limit his transportation, this cannot continue. I am curious as to how you would deal with someone that you respect, who no longer is the same person they were years ago. His family is aware of what is going on, but we have not yet spoken to them. It is a difficult subject to broach. Meanwhile, we are reinforcing all the doorways.

16 comments:

  1. You must call his family, Or Area Agency on Aging. They should tell you what you can do.Look under Senior Citizen'Servs in phone book.
    Patsy

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  2. I think his family should know, as well. Clearly he should no longer be living on his own and is not only putting himself at risk, but all the other residents who live there. What horror he would have created had the candle set the entire complex on fire.

    As for the scooter, it sounds like he's a reckless endangerment to himself, others, and the property that you all have a vested interest in.

    His family should know how badly things have degraded.

    BTW, I really love the variety in the photos you're sharing today. Your talent astounds me.

    Thank you also for your incredibly kind and generous comments over at my place the other day. I'm honoured and humbled. Thank you.

    Hug
    Carolynn

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  3. Very funny but yes it sounds like its time to take away the keys or whatever. Call the family and tell them you would like to meet with him.

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  4. I agree, you should discuss your concerns with his family.

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  5. I agree, you should discuss your concerns with his family.

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  6. I agree, you need to call his family. Today. He's going to hurt himself or someone else eventually. And although it sounds funny, it is not in reality. I feel for the man but again, it's a dangerous situation. Good luck in dealing with this, whatever you do.

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  7. It is a compassionate 'must' that you contact his family. TTFN ~Marydon

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  8. It is always hard to take away someone's freedoms. Our coffee group did it with one of our own as her Alzheimers worsened. Her daughter lived in the US and I finally had to contact her and make it clear that her mom was wandering the streets in the middle of the night because when she woke up she assumed it was morning and time to go to the coffee shop. She walked into the streets without looking and gave everyone her debit card and pin number because she couldn't work the debit machine.
    She is now in White Rock in a secure facility. This was especially hard because she was only around 60 years old.
    It will have to be done.

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  9. Not only did I have to take the keys away from Dad near the end of his life, I had to convince Nalley (my hubby) to give up driving at age 52 due to neurological disease. It's the hardest thing I ever had to do and he was mad for quite some time. I was the bad guy...but I saved not only his life but possibly other innocent people. Contact his family - it is a huge liability.

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  10. Oh, this is a challenge, to be sure, but obviously you need to have a word with the family or senior's advocate before he hurts someone else--or himself. I'm sorry that you're in this position, though.

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  11. Thanks everyone for reinforcing what we knew we should be doing, which is bringing it up with his family. There are extenuating circumstances that make telling his family even harder, but I can't write about them.

    The family realizes what is going on, but since they don't live in the building, it becomes a little easier for them to ignore.

    He has recently been parking the scooter down in the parking garage, and those doors are much wider than the hallways.

    Let's hope that this gets resolved soon.

    Jen

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  12. A tricky situation to negotiate, but I know from your writing that you'll be able to deal with it with tact and diplomacy. Regardless of the extenuating circumstances, his family need to know what's going on in order to ensure his safety - and the safety of everyone around him.

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  13. Oh goodness - what a character! I had to laugh at the thought of him opening the door naked. Hilarious.

    It does seem as though he should no longer be driving... I'd talk to his family and tell them how concerned you are for his safety.

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  14. I hope things can be addressed soon, Jen. What about the condo. management? Do they know who broke the front doors? I hope he doesn't get 'evicted' but unless his family steps in, things don't sound too good. I'm sorry you have to be so involved w/this...it is definitely a difficult situation! I had to do something similar w/my 85 yr. old neighbor while his wife was in the hospital! He takes all kinds of pain meds and was 'really' out of it one day as he 'insisted' that HE drive to the hospital, instead of me! He was not pleased with me. In fact, I gave the keys to another neighbor, across the street (a guy) so that I could slowly back out of the situation. However, when his wife returned home, she let him drive again! He doesn't stop at stop signs and that worries me, because my son-and other kids-ride their bikes around here and he could hurt or kill one of them!

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  15. Some of those elderly people with scooters seem to be in their own demolition derby. I was nearly run over in the grocery store..there should be a speed limit for those scooters!
    Sounds like the family is aware..I am sure it is not easy for them either.
    Stark naked A? LOL..you are still traumatized.. At least he wears clothing on the scooter! :)

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