I made up with a old friend today, worked out our differences, and decided to go forward, and forget the past.
It wasn’t easy to do, things have been rather hot between us lately, and I was waiting for my feelings to cool down substantially before I approached again.
But I am glad that I have done it. If I were to wait to long, I might have regrets, more disappointments, and sadness.
Besides now that the summer heat is over, and the cooler temperatures reign, it’s a lot easier to visit my garden, my good friend.
During the heat of summer, I must admit to neglecting the watering, the weeding, the deadheading. It’s that kind of friendship, “a you get what you give.”
And sometimes you end up giving too much, and getting little in return.
This is the year of giving lots, and not really getting a return.
My garden has been a big disappointment as far as friends go this year. Early promises, and then long wet spring, hardly makes for a great friendship. Everything was stunted, short, and timid. Tomatoes, beans, flowers. The only thing that really grew were the peas, and they took months to show up.
So as I take stock of our friendship, I do realize that each one is different, and good friends are hard to come by.
And it takes a long time to grow a old friend.
Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams
good for you! I have lost touch with my best friend as well...it just kind of happened. Our lives are very different now. I miss her.
ReplyDeleteI think many of us share the same sentiment this summer. Beautiful pics as always Jen. Enjoy your day.
ReplyDeleteWell if you have trouble growing things you can imagine how bad it was for the rest of us.
ReplyDeleteI've been there. Love that last statement, "It takes a long time to grow an old friend." Beautiful post. Thanks, Jen.
ReplyDelete...Yes gardening in the Canadian Pacific South West...has its struggles....but like all great friendships the perseverence is worth it in the LONG run...but it can be exhausting...!
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ReplyDeletewhat a great way to express this summer. i feel the same way this year.
but as the temps get a little cooler...not this week. i will slowly return.
happy september.
Everyone has their off day. This time it seems to have extended over an entire season. It still looks beautiful and green and I'll bet Bootsie appreciated the shade it offered him on the days when the sun did come out.
ReplyDeleteMarvellous pictures as usual. Love the raindrops on the grass. Delicious!
ReplyDeleteYes, and the freaking rain can stop soon too..can you imagine how much it will snow if it keeps raining every other day? :)
ReplyDeleteAhhhh... love this post! Great writing, Jen. You pulled me in and I loved it.
ReplyDeleteHow good to make up with an old friend; I hope you can continue together. The Bible has several profound passages about how we need to forgive. Not always easy but quite good for the soul.
ReplyDeleteWait a minute, I think you were talking about your garden! On first go round, I thought you meant a people friend :)
ReplyDeleteVery intense feelings you are a deep person.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Patsy
The heat did make it difficult to garden.
ReplyDeleteThe cooler temps lure you outside and feel alive.
Wonderful creative shots.
There is always next year. Don't give up.
ReplyDeleteOh, how TRUE is this post?! BTW I love your photos sooooo much!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great analogy! I was thinking you'd had a spat with a girlfriend. And then realized it was the same friend I could be talking about!
ReplyDeleteBrenda
I love this post - another expression of how gardening teaches us about life - and not just plant life!
ReplyDeleteVery, very nice post, Jen. I hope to be back on speaking terms with my garden in time to send it a Christmas card.
ReplyDeleteLovely Jen! Beautiful metaphor. Happy Autumn! ;>)
ReplyDeleteHi Jen - I've just become a follower after discovering your blog a few moments ago. I know it will interest me for several reasons including the photo card connection. Years ago I started a small card
ReplyDeletemaking business and sold locally through 5 different businesses. I've taken a break but do want to get back into it. I grew up on the island and lived in the Okanagan for 9 years...connections - i think so. Bye the way - your photographs are spectacular!
haha, I love this. You are such a magical story teller I too thought it was about another person. You drew me into the story, I was thinking "oh, I wonder what happened between them to start this conflict!". I too understand the love/frustration relationship with the garden. And I am sure my garden often feels the same about me.
ReplyDeleteI'm in the same place you were before you "made up". My poor front garden is a shambles because of the delayed trimming that always happens this time of year to preserve water and prevent scorching from late heatwaves (like the one today). I'll be so happy when I can go out and "make up" with my old friend. In the meantime, I have to just hope she'll forgive me.
ReplyDeletejen, I've felt that way this summer~But, you're so right to get in there and make up! I'm not sure what the next growing season will bring, but it's bound to be different then this one! gail
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